In this fast paced modern world being kind to ourselves can often be overlooked and undervalued. There are so many ways we can be kind to ourselves. This kindness helps to ensure a happy and healthy body and mind that work together to create the best possible environment for conception.
1. Positive self talk
There is a reason the word infertility will only be used once in this website. The only images and feelings this word can conjure up are negative. Negative images, feelings, thoughts and concepts can only lead to negative results. And at Happy Healthy Clinic we are all about positive thoughts, feelings, and actions that lead to positive results.
Our brains are amazing. They believe what we tell them and put in place physiological responses to ensure our thoughts are correct. If we tell ourselves something is going to hurt, it will most likely hurt more than if we had told ourselves that it would feel pleasant. If we tell ourselves that we can’t make it to the top of the hill, we will most likely make it three quarters of the way there. If, on the same hill, we had told ourselves the top is close and absolutely possible to reach we would most likely have made it to the top. If we tell ourselves that something is impossible, it most likely will be. If we tell ourselves that all things are possible if we put are mind to it, your mind will make the seemingly impossible seem inevitable. In short, what we tell ourselves is what most likely what will be.
From a fertility perspective this is such a fundamental concept. The trying to conceive (TTC) journey is such an emotional trial for so many people. Remaining positive can seem impossible at times. But it is an essential key to ensure a positive outcome.
Women so often blame themselves and their ‘broken’ body for the fact that conception is delayed. Like all types of blame, this is detrimental to your health and happiness. If you have a uterus, a pituitary gland, ovaries and are under the age of 45, your body is most likely able to conceive. This conception may take some time. It may take a serious amount of effort on your behalf. It may be really difficult at times to remain positive. But it is extremely important that you do not give up on your body. Your body is amazing, it has a fundamental desire to heal. Feed it the right food, thoughts, exercise, supplements and sleep and watch it heal a day at a time. Fertility is a state of wellness, not a state of impossible, remember this.
2. Embrace your femininity
What is one of the absolute fundamentals of pregnancy? Being female! We live in a high pressured world that demands more and more that women act like men. In the work place women are encouraged and expected to be more aggressive than is often natural for many women.
Women are often isolated from other women. We are creatures of commune. We women need each other for our mental wellness. Be sure to take some time out to socialise with other women. Even if it is your Saturday morning yoga class.
We undertake exercise that is often more aggressive than a woman’s body desires. Boxing, high intensity martial arts, kick boxing and high intensity circuits are extremely intense forms of exercise that do not encourage the feminine side of your body to flourish. During the TTC process undertake more ‘feminine’ forms of exercise such as walking, yoga and pilates. Check out our guide to fertility exercise balance.
We ‘power through’ our menstrual cycles. Menstruation is actually your body’s way of rejuvenating and re-setting for the next cycle, respect this and allow your body the energy it requires to do this. For the first couple of days reduce the intensity of your exercise and go to bed earlier.
3. Be gentle to yourself
Yes you are going to have days where you feel like conceiving is impossible, like the first day of your period. Let yourself feel this pain and let yourself move on. Don’t deny your feelings but also try not to dwell on them. When you are ttc it can seem as if the whole world is pregnant but you. Sometimes it is great to be around pregnant women and babies to get the pregnancy ‘vibe’ going on! Other times this is like some form of torture. It is ok to say no to that baby shower that you feel might just tip you over that edge. Keep your mental wellness at the forefront of your mind and be gentle with it. Allow yourself to be sad and also allow yourself to have a great time. Do not put the rest of your life on hold for conception. Your physical and mental health are required to enable a healthy conception.
4. Distract yourself
At Happy Healthy Clinic we have seen all kinds of approaches to help aid the conception process. Some are great, like changing from a high pressure, stressful job to a more relaxed, balanced job. Some women have chosen to stop work all together. For some women this approach works but for a lot of women we have seen this takes the pressure on the conception process to whole new level. It is now the only thing to focus on. Work, exercise, friends and hobbies are all great ways to make sure there are other focuses in your life. These distractions are positive steps in keeping your head and heart happy.